An interview with Michelle Theer: 'A deadly mix'
Q. You met John Diamond through the Internet?
A. I know that I chatted with him online. I do remember. . . him coming across as very funny, very amusing. . . he would send me these little funny messages, and they made me laugh. I finally agreed to meet him in person. And that was main thing about him that attracted me to him.
Q. In all candor, you had done this before, and you maybe weren't as nervous in meeting someone you were meeting online?
A. I wasn't concerned about going to a public place and meeting someone, no. . . when I met him. . . we clicked. He was very interesting, very funny, very charming.
Q. Handsome?
A. Uh-huh. But there's a lot of good-looking guys out there.
Q. But you liked his personality.
A. Yeah. . . He made me laugh. And to me, personally, that's the most important quality.
Q. Marty wasn't making you laugh. You were in a place you didn't want to be–Fayetteville–Marty was gone all the time. Is there a sense of desperation here on your part?
A. I don't know. . . Believe me, there are times when I am still trying to understand myself. . . people have asked me, and I have wondered myself, was I trying to get caught [in affairs]? And I do think–I honestly do believe–that I wanted to get caught, that I wanted Marty to catch me. And there are times when I think that Marty did know what was going on, and he purposely turned a blind eye.
Q. You mean about Diamond?
A. Yeah. Because I don't know how he could have not known. . . . There were things I did that were very blatant, very obvious, very right out there.
Q. Having Diamond over when he was gone?
A. Yeah. . .
Q. You were living together as man and wife, but the reality was, you were doing your own thing?
A. Well, I think we were. I think we got used to living our own lives when we lived apart. You know, Marty was putting pressure on me about having a family. . . I really felt like he was doing that because he wanted–he felt like that would be a ball and chain that would keep me.
Q. You think he loved you more than you loved him.
A. Yeah.
Q. Were you in love with Diamond–ever?
A. I guess I was, yeah.
Q. Were you trying to break it off with Diamond?
A. I did try. . . I was very conflicted. . . I knew that Marty and I were going to have some problems to work through when I first came to North Carolina. . . . I didn't realize how big the problems were going to be. I didn't realize that Marty was going to be leaving Fayetteville in January [2000] to go to a school for five months. That made the problems even worse. . . He went to Little Rock, Ark.. . . aircraft commanders' school. I was really upset about that because he volunteered to go to that. Here we were, just getting back to living together again, after all this time apart. . . and then he goes and volunteers to go there, and leave me stuck in Fayetteville alone. And, then I got involved with Diamond, and that made things worse.
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