How the Media's Getting the Strauss-Kahn, Ensign Scandals Wrong

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Now that former Sen. John Ensign has taken a sort of early retirement, and French politician Dominique Strauss-Kahn is in danger of being forced into retirement from the IMF, it is time that the media retire a few words and concepts of their own.

Let’s start with "mistress," an utter throwback of a word meant to describe a woman who is sleeping with a married man. There is no such dismissive word for the man; he just gets to be the married guy having an affair. "Mistress" connotes an image of some empty-headed lass, sitting on a velvet couch and eating bon-bons while she’s waiting for her man to call. The proper word here is "girlfriend," or perhaps "lover." Defining them as some sort of property of the man in question is offensive. [Check out a roundup of this month's best political cartoons.]

But "womanizer" is worse, since it turns an entire sex into a collective object to be used or victimized by men. Strauss-Kahn has been described in the media as a notorious "womanizer," a term that treats women almost as badly as the IMF chief allegedly has done. It also makes the man sound like the hapless victim of irresistible female charms. If Strauss-Kahn did was he has been accused of doing--sexually assaulting and attempting to rape a maid at a fancy New York hotel--he’s not a "womanizer." He’s a violent criminal, and needs to be punished for it. It’s actually the perpetrators who like to describe themselves in such roguish ways: convicted Washington state sex offender Donald "Theo" Holmes, who admitted having impregnated mothers and daughters in the same house, summed himself up this way: "I’m a womanizer." A state psychologist who examined him had a different view: "psychopathic sexual predator."

And many of us thought we were done with the offensive term "skirt-chaser," although an MSNBC guest described Strauss-Kahn that way. That’s only a few notches below the phrase "wine, women, and song"--an expression that puts half the population (and the sex which last year happened to be awarded more Ph.Ds than men) into the role of indulgence and distraction.

Ensign had an apparently consensual affair; his serious alleged transgression involves violating campaign laws and lying to the Federal Election Commission. Strauss-Kahn has been accused of a violent assault. Both episodes happen to involve women and sex. The media can do better than to define the women in such dismissive terms.

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Not to put too fine a point on it but, while a French municipality is conducting a preliminary investigation, Dominique Strauss-Kahn has NOT been charged with anything whatsoever (although he has been arrested, imprisoned, fined and had his rights severely curtailed several times in the past months). Before everyone nods, winks and snorts up their sleeves, it might be worth remembering that until one year ago he was a pivotal independent in the volatile , highly politicized world of international economics. There were many who wished to see him removed from that position and the IMF severely hobbled. What has taken place in the European economy since his oversight was removed must surely be evident to everyone. More importantly, he wanted to see the world move to a single, global currency - a move which, if effected could undermine US hegemony around the world - and he had already commenced to set the foundations for such a total overhaul in the way the world does business. These are only two of the powerful forces opposing him. I've not even mentioned the particularly vicious French presedential campaign and concurrent chicanery that seems to have surrounded Sarkozy and his arch rival, DSK.

So, until DSK IS charged and found guilty of actual crime, isn't it a bit early to be casting him in the role of iconic sex abuser? In fact, if the "media has it wrong" regarding DSK, I'd say the muddled insistence that he MUST be guilty because, well, because a woman said so is either recklessly playing to the gallery or naive in the ultra extreme. As a woman myself, I'd truly prefer to believe that no woman ever lies about sex for personal advantage (i.e. cash, job advancement, husband entrapment etc.) but every woman knows at least one other of our fairer sex who has done exactly that. "Yes, but no woman would ever, ever lie about rape." Really? What is it about a play for millions of dollars that you fail to understand? Spill over celebrity is a plus for these women who usually run first to the press and later the police.

"But wait," you say, "of course he's guilty because..... because he's rich and powerful and his accusers are just poor prostitutes and an innocent immigration fraudster"- a mantra quickly taken up by the general public . (I hear you. Just because they're prostitutes doesn't mean they can't be raped. Just because she lied about rape before doesn't mean she wasn't raped this time, etc. Puh...leeze!) The whole non-case is bizarre. A French Revolutionary redux? You can almost here the old crone's knitting needles clicking. Like so many others before him DSK has been and is being subjected to a relentless "trial by media". When he is eventually cleared (assuming anyone ever gets around to laying any actual charges), the media will simply supply lots of stories and opinion pieces about how the rich and powerful get away with everything while reciting the whole history of alleged events all over and over again.

Carlita of WA 8:06AM June 02, 2012

DSK, Al Gore, perhaps even Kobe Bryant, feel that a luxury suite should include female "companionship." I'm one of those who thinks that empowering women to sell their inherent ability to entertain hurts no one. (Don't get me started: I can pay someone minimum wage to run my convenience store, knowing he'll likely get shot by robbers, but I can't pay someone to dance naked for me?)

So, if outdated, puritanical laws were repealed, allowing hotels to offer room service escorts, then someone who attacked a maid would clearly be a "violent criminal." As it is, the situation is not as clear as Ms. Milligan would like to believe.

Alastair Dallas of CA 3:16PM May 24, 2011

One is a charged violent crime against a women. The other a outside relationship of a married man. Pelosi is Catholic & she is for abortion. Going against her religion. You don’t see me condemning her. She obviously has FAMILY VALUES. So do the Kennedys, etc.. Family values is not Republican property.

So democrats are not "family values party " ???

After "river runs through Teddy's car " he didn't get reelected ?

Should democrats be kicked out of office for not doing their job. That is more important and that I vote on. No budget done when due by democrat controlled Congress.

democrat party is "do nothing complainers" in Congress....

Bill Hedges of MO 12:00AM May 18, 2011

Susan Milligan

Susan Milligan

Susan Milligan is a political and foreign affairs writer and contributed to a biography of the late Sen. Edward M. Kennedy, "Last Lion: The Fall and Rise of Ted Kennedy." Follow her on Twitter @MilliganSusan.

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