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Pat Robertson's Alzheimer's Divorce Comments Demean Marriage

September 21, 2011 RSS Feed Print

Pat Robertson has made some pretty crazy remarks. Remember the "hit" he wanted us to take out on Hugo Chavez?!  Yes, the self-proclaimed leader of the moral majority, former presidential candidate, and television talk host on the 700 Club. But Robertson is also a pastor, a man who claims to believe that the Bible is the word of God. So imagine my and so many others' surprise when he spoke of divorcing a spouse with Alzheimer's because they're pretty much dead anyway?! (Remember "'til death do us  part?" It certainly gives a new slant to that notion.)

Now of course I'm paraphrasing. And you might find this odd coming from me, a liberal, progressive, Democrat; but I'm as angry at the message as I am the messenger.

Robertson is a leader in the conservative Christian circles. These are the same people that fight for the definition of marriage to only be between a man and a woman; certainly not a man and a man or a woman and a woman. Why? Because marriage is holy, ordained by God. It's one of the first things God does in book of Genesis.

[See a collection of political cartoons on gay marriage.]

I am angry at this remark Mr. Robertson made, although not surprised, because it shows the true hypocrisy of not only these leaders, but of so many Christians who use the Bible only when it suits them. Remember what Gandhi said about not being able to find Christ among them?

I have been married for 15 years. Happily? Yes, for the most part. I did take the vows when I married to love and honor in sickness and in health, for better or worse, 'til death do us part. And I meant it when I took those vows.

If we simply divorce, or do away with a "problem," as a person with Alzheimer's may often be perceived, then what's next? Divorce when someone is burned in a fire? Partially dismembered in an auto accident? Loses a breast (or two) to breast cancer? When a man can no longer maintain an erection? How about when one's beauty fades? Oh right, they already do that. (At least in Los Angeles where I live.)

[Vote now: Should gay marriage be legal nationwide?]

The point is, Alzheimer's is an illness; it's one of those "sicknesses" the Bible and those vows refer to. And, it is certainly one of the worst times for a spouse, for a family.

Marriage is not a walk in the park. But if you're going to fight to defend it, define it, and protect it based on the Bible, at least read the Bible Mr. Robertson and see what God says about the very institution He designed.

Maybe if more of us took those vows more seriously, we wouldn't have a divorce rate that hovers above 50 percent in America today.

Shame on Mr. Robertson for twisting the "word of God" as he calls the Bible, when he chooses. I believe it's men like Robertson who keep many of us more than an arm's length from our creator.

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Please forgive me for disagreeing with you a bit. I am not trying to be disrespectful in anyway, but I work in a nursing home in a ward with residents who have dementia and Alzheimer's disease. You have married couples who have been together for years and years and in their supposed "golden years" find that one or both have that dreaded disease where you forget your family, your life, how to eat, how to do the most rudimentary things that we all take for granted. Let's say that it is your mother and father and you are barely making it in the economy with your own bills and your father starts staying up all night and walking out into the street while you are sleeping. Your mother is working herself to death, changing his clothes, cleaning up after his messes, (they love to wipe feces all over everything) and putting up with his fits of anger (they get angry and don't know why, often biting and hitting and kicking). So, you try to use the money you have, your parents have saved so that you can hire a full-time nurse to help. You find very quickly you can't afford it. You consider a nursing home, but to do that it has to be private pay because if you use medicare or medicaid, you cannot own a home or receive any income, it all goes to the nursing home. Now private pay to the worst nursing homes can run 4-6k a month. Can you afford that??

The next thing you try is taking care of him yourself. You miss a lot of work, spend a lot of money, and end up getting depressed because you have no life and your dad is getting worse and not better. He will never get better.

Another option is divorce, that way, the healthy spouse can keep her home and not lose everything she owns. The spouse with the Alzheimer's is perfectly happy at a nursing home with family visiting because he has lost all touch with who is family and who isn't. He has friends there, stimulation any time of day or night if needed. Someone strong enough to change his clothes, bathe, feed and spend time with him. He can continue his favorite past times if he can remember them. Mostly, he will enjoy sitting with others, having socials and wandering the halls for hours.

I have made one huge paragraph here, but I would like if you can for a moment imagine your mom not losing her home. Still being able to visit the man she loves and his monthly bills being paid by his funds and with Medicare. Not everyone has a nice retirement pension.

The above situation is what is happening to me and my family. Decisions will have to be made soon. Do I take away everything from my mother who is perfectly sane and healthy in her 80's...so that my dad can go to a nursing home, or find a way that God will most likely understand. It is a divorce, but it is not a true divorce of the heart, it is one of those situations where you have to do what you have to do to survive. Do you think God would not understand???

Melisa M Williams of VA 8:24PM January 18, 2012

Thank god some bloggers can write. Thank you for this piece...

David Ella's Blog of AL 11:34AM December 16, 2011

This definitely makes perfect sense to anyone!!!

Gucci Sunglasses of AL 9:00AM November 28, 2011

Leslie Marshall

Leslie Marshall

Leslie Marshall is a nationally syndicated radio host heard nationwide weekdays from 7-10pm Eastern time on radio and streamed live at www.lesliemarshallshow.com. Leslie is also a Fox News contributor seen weekly on The O'Reilly Factor, America Live, monthly on Hannity and she sits in for Bob Beckel as one of the co hosts on The Five. She lives in Los Angeles.

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