Michelle Obama's Mom-In-Chief Image Is a Cave to Politics and Stereotypes

May 11, 2009 RSS Feed Print

By Bonnie Erbe, Thomas Jefferson Street blog.

I commend to your attention a thoughtful Mother's Day piece in the Sacramento Bee from Professor Melissa Harris-Lacewell, an associate professor of politics and African-American studies at Princeton.

Prof. Harris-Lacewell gives a fascinating perspective on the topic of first lady Michelle Obama's commitment to be "Mom-in-Chief" in the White House. Mrs. Obama is certainly much more than that, having taken on advocacy positions for military families, for women and girls and for a variety of other so-called underserved groups.

Prof. Harris-Lacewell attempts to explain the difference between white and black women who in a very public forum take on the mantle of Mom first, career woman second. She says that women's rights advocates who were disappointed when Mrs. Obama did not continue to further her own independent career while in the White House had a different meaning as black women have a different history in this regard. She says white, middle-class gender norms have kept white women in the domestic sphere, but not so for black women:

These women have faced the requirement of employment and shouldered the extreme burden of attempting to effectively parent while providing financially for their families. ... So when first lady Obama makes a choice to focus on supporting her daughters through their school transition and providing companionship to her husband as he governs, she is not really conforming to norms. She is surprisingly thwarting expectations of African American women's role in the family and representing a different image than we are used to encountering in this country.

As noted above, I appreciate Prof. Harris-Lacewell's perspective immensely, but still disagree with it. My white female ancestors also worked out of financial need when many women stayed home. My maternal grandmother worked her way up to become one of the first female directors of a department store's art department in New York City in the 1930s. She and my grandfather had divorced and she worked for sustenance, as she had no other source of income.

I believe Mrs. Obama's "Mom-in-Chief" image was created more by Obama image-makers David Axelrod et. al. to soften her into a first lady Americans could love. I think it is a sad state of affairs that Americans are more comfortable with a non-threatening first lady than with a career woman, but it is also a stereotype that screams to be abolished. Michelle Obama is just the person who could have done it, but she decided against it. Instead, she caved into advisors' demands.

The truth is, until that stereotype becomes history, all women will suffer less power and clout in the workplace.

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I needed to correct the heading grammar and also to add that this sort of viewpoint further disparages women, as it is founded on the assumption that women's work in the home, is less valuable than women's work in the corporate world. It also devalues Michelle Obama's community work, with young girls and military families to name two among many - work that might have far reaching effects for positive change in our society. Apparently, these things are less important than breaking so-called stereotypes.

Willa Liburd of DC 12:46PM May 13, 2009

I would like Bonnie Erbe to cite her source when she says "I believe Mrs. Obama's "Mom-in-Chief" image was created more by Obama image-makers David Axelrod et. al. to soften her into a first lady Americans could love....it is also a stereotype that screams to be abolished."

This is irresponsible and misleading journalism. By the end of that paragraph Bonnie turns that statement of belief into one of fact, ending with

"... Michelle Obama is just the person who could have done it, but she decided against it. Instead, she caved into advisors' demands."

What is the source of your information Bonnie?

Michelle Obama has repeatedly said that this is her choice, and also repeatedly stressed her support for her husband's campaign and presidency, as opposed to an earlier Senate run that she did not support. Having made her choice, Bonnie's comments are blatant ANTI-FEMINISM, WANTING TO ROB MRS OBAMA OF PERSONAL CHOICE AND PREFERRING THAT THE FIRST LADY LIVES HER LIFE SO AS TO SERVE BONNIE'S (AND OTHER SO-CALLED FEMINISTS') OWN POLITICAL AGENDA.

What gives you the right Ms. Erbe? And where were you when Michelle Obama was being attacked in the media for being too outspoken, aggressive etc. during the campaign. Where was your feminist support then? Silent.

Willa Liburd of DC 12:27PM May 13, 2009

In my last post I talked about how Michelle has free will and there is absolutely nothing wrong with her being unapologetic about making her two daughters who are 7 and 10 her top priority while in the White House. They are now the First Children and it is important that they have someone to guide them and help them have a positive transition during this crazy time in their lives. When I look at Michelle I can still see a driven, smart, intelligent woman with confidence, and the confidence to make her own decisions. She is the First Lady of the United States for goodness sake. It’s not like she’s going to or has been sitting on her behind the whole time baking cookies and knitting booties for her kids. She has been really out there and has done quite a lot in a small amount of time from what I have seen. When these four to eight years are up and she chooses to go back to work it’s not like her employers are going to think she “fell off” and can’t do her job anymore. I am a young woman in her early twenties attending college and I would like to attend Law School once I get my undergrad degree. I would also consider myself a moderate Democrat. My mother worked and continues to work a full time job, but she has always said and made me feel that I was her top priority over any job or career. I love her for that and I think every child deserves that. I get the sense that Michelle also did this when she was vice president of the University of Chicago Hospital. Obviously it is possible for a woman to both have a career and care for her children, but is it really so horrible if she chooses to focus on her children for some time first? She has only been in the White House for what…4 months and already she is being criticized for not projecting the image of a career woman over nurturing her children. If Michelle wanted to make policy while in the white house the way Hilary did, that’s fine with me but like I said before, Michelle has made it clear many times in the past that she is not interested in politics the way her husband is. She went to Harvard Law and decided to use he intelligence and skills to help others in a more communal rather than political way and there is nothing wrong with that. Sara of CA and Bonnie, I don't know exactly how old you guys are or specifically what generation you come from, but I am getting the sense that you both coming from a generation of feminist’s or at least adhere to and ideology of feminism that I personally call “Old School Feminism”. This is the type of feminism that tries to over compensate and criticize women who choose to stay home with their children and imply that they are somehow selling themselves short because of their choice. Isn’t feminism about choice? Shouldn’t there be some sort of balance? And to Sara, I think stay at home dad’s are a great thing, but my point is that everyone should have a choice. Bonnie you are doing nothing for empowering women, especially young women like myself, who are trying to navigate life and balance working toward a career with having a family. I feel like you are implying that I should be ashamed of myself if I choose to do what Michelle did and but a job on hold to care for my kids?

Ari of NY 3:21PM May 12, 2009

Bonnie Erbe

Bonnie Erbe

Bonnie Erbe is a contributing editor at U.S. News & World Report and hosts PBS's weekly news analysis program, To the Contrary with Bonnie Erbe. She also writes a weekly syndicated newspaper column for Scripps Howard News Service.

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