Antiabortion Groups' Case Against Sotomayor

"SSM is not an attack on marriage. The Evangelicals in this country have already carried that out and largely destroyed the ideal."

I think it was the conservative evangelicals who, twenty years ago, complained about the increase in divorce in America and how it would impact the generations of children who grew up in single households without fathers....You know what liberal advocate groups were saying about them at the time? That they were out of touch with modern society. They laughed and poked fun at the idea saying that they were paranoid. Fifteen years later, I wonder what they are saying now? All of the problems children are facing today are in fact linked to the breaking down of the family structure. Fatherless homes are the greatest factor in crime, drug and alcohol abuse, promiscuity and risky sexual behavior, psychological and behavior problems, and suicide. My family is divorced, my brother went through a very difficult time during his teenage years when my father walked out on us and never attempted to fix his marriage with our mom. My brother had a lot of love, was raised primarily by women, had all the support he needed and still struggled with his identity and what it meant to be a man. Today he is fine, but I've heard him talk about his experiences as an adolescent and how a part of him was never fulfilled because he never had a male in his life to show him how to be a man. Believe it or not, it was a biological need that was never fulfilled. Evangels were right fifteen years ago about the breaking down of the family structure and what would happen if children were brought up in single households or grew up in step family households. Theres something significant about the male and female combination. Children need both influences in their life. I believe structure in many ways reflects love and once you start messing with structure, more confusion, pain, and eratic behavior with surface. As far as evangels messing up the institution of marriage...thats ridiculous. They are the only ones not getting divorced now a days. They were the only ones who tried to work their own marriages out before getting divorced fifteen years ago. I don't believe all divorces are bad especially when abuse( psychological, emotional, sexual or physical), is occurring in the home or adultery. My parents got a divorce because my father was abusive to my mother. Now I know some would argue that it was better for my brother to be raised with no dad then with an abusive dad and you're right,but there was always apart of him that longed to have a male influence in his life. It was not an idea that was forced on him, it was a need that was never fulfilled. By redefining marriage, gays and straights are saying that children don't need a male or a female in their life and that is simply not true. They need both, that is the ideal. Any other way, underminds the truth, which long term leads to consequences. Evangels are asking..why add on?

Sara of ME 11:59PM June 16, 2009