“Try some activity that you are not very good at and ask for help,” advises Gray. “Men bond with women more easily when they are doing something to help the woman.”
In other words, "Women, play dumb...let the Big Man be the Big Man?"
I certainly do hope that other women are more self-respecting than to think that this idea will attract a relationship that will make them happy!
John Grey is a victim of the 50s....and not an intelligent one....
san jose
of CA
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Oct 20, 2009 23:48:04 PM
Fun place to live for single baby boomer?
I couldn't take the heat in Florida anymore and am spending the summer in The Jersey Shore Area. (Bored Here)
Where is a great city for single (58) people to live? Please, no Sun City, etc. Not my cup of tea.
I'm searching for a place where I can hear some great music and there are some fun, lively singles1
Kathryn
of NJ
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Jul 27, 2009 16:34:19 PM
Single in San Diego. Attn: Kathy, Brian
I have lived in San Diego for eight unhappy years. By the time my "Fixer upper" condo was ready to be put on the market, there was no market! So I'm stuck here until I can sell my condo for as much as I paid, including improvements.
Kathy, I agree about the weather here, the best in the U.S.. But that and the ocean and close proximity to hills/mountains is all. The people that are friendly are also flakey They don't follow through on committments,not talking about living together, more like a phone call. It's difficult to find people that are interested, or even aware that forty-nine other states exist, much less other continents. For most, the weekend starts sometime before noon on Fridays, even if their jobs don't. I learned the first year or so, not to try to reach anyone if I needed information or any kind of help, just wait for Tuesday. Mondays aren't too good either, employees are recovering from their three day weekend. The lack of intellectual curiosity is astonishing! The last complaint that I will mention is that one must be wealthy to partake of the arts or any cultural endevors.
Brian, I also appreciate the attributes you mentioned about Hawaii. But don't you miss the lack of culture, or for that matter, the lack of intellect? It'seven worse than San Diego!
Waiting for the housing market to return. Lilli
Lilli
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Jun 23, 2009 14:59:53 PM
think mexico
what drug wars?what crime rate? want the magic of santa fe,w/out the expense? try san miguel allende,mexico.beautiful cheap homes, resturants,artful entertainment,all very very reasonable.frendly expats in the town square.no im not a real estate agent.taxes are laughable.no eathquakes,hurricanes,floods,wild fires,riots,etc. downside,for gringos its like the gay 90s, everyones gay and ninty.beautiful young mexicanas though.
jamesinmx
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Jun 23, 2009 09:01:01 AM
Santa Fe: The Demand for Straight Single Men
While Santa Fe, NM is indisputably one of the nation's "artistic capitals" -- with an endless array of arts and cultural opportunities, and a friendly, beautiful, historic and unique capital city -- it is probably among the least likely places for mature heterosexual women to meet a love interest.
The number of beautiful, educated, spiritual, single middle-age women far exceeds their male counterparts. (I know, as many of my real estate clients over the past decade have been these women moving from major metropolitan areas) who are drawn to the arts, climate and "magic" of Santa Fe, but are often disappointed by the lack of "eligible" men.
According to the Santa Fe Reporter (weekly newspaper), Santa Fe ranks second per capita for the size of its GLBT community.
Therefore, for older straight men and gays of both genders, Sante Fe may indeed prove fertile ground for single seniors. In any case, with a median age around 45, Santa Fe is among the most vibrant and interesting places to live in the U.S.
Aysha Griffin
of NM
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Jun 21, 2009 20:53:18 PM
Single Retirement Places
Forget San Luis Obispo. Picture shows Morro Bay with big "rock" and sailboats -- really NOT San Luis Obispo. Coast and city are different temperatures. College students dominate SLO city. Morro Bay don't really sail that much and Avila Beach Yacht Club is for "social" only; which was the worst place in my entire life of unfriendly people!! I'm single here for 4 years and hate it. Just now found out about singles group. Definately few men over 50. Weather here "sucks" unless you like 50/60's and WINDY. I hate the weather - send me back to San Diego.
Kathy
of CA
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Jun 12, 2009 23:24:06 PM
Honolulu Hawaii
The abundance of sunshine and lots of balmy mild weather all year around not to mention the gorgeous scenaries,exotic and beautiful people from all over the world. I won't live in any other place than this paradise.
Brian
of HI
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Jun 11, 2009 15:34:38 PM
Emily Brandon did you gather your facts from an out of date census report?
Like so many similar articles that I read about the "Best Places to Live, Retire, Find Singles, Go to College", etc., Ms. Brandon's article is vague and ambiguous. Is this what it takes to get paid for an internet article these days...i.e. incomplete research and facts that have been skewed to "fit" into a desired subject? Or perhaps Ms. Brandon's research was complete but rather she chose to make her article so broad as to appeal to the largest number of readers so that it receives the maximum amount of "clicks" possible, content be darned?
I do read a lot of these articles, mostly to stay abreast of how ineffective information circulates on the internet, being passed off as journalism to what the authors must believe is an uneducated, uninformed reading public. I shutter to think that somewhere, someone is taking this information seriously and possibly making their retirement decisions based on what Ms. Brandon...or her editor...have passed off as fact.
The information in this article is absurdly incomplete. Please do your own research, visiting any location prior to buying property or making retirement decisions.
Stephanie
of CA
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Jun 09, 2009 15:23:43 PM
Santa Fe: Think Again
I'm presently in San Francisco having spent 3 & a half yrs. in Santa Fe where I bought a house. Though the place is def. artistic & sunny, do not waste your time believing there may be single men over 55 there. If so, they must be among the many Hispanics of the area who do not mix w/Caucasians (even Jewish are called "Anglos"). Take your lead from there ---although if you're a man reading this, you will find quite a large number of pleasant educated 50+ women there just waiting to meet you!! Like the postings below, it doesn't look like the cost of living was taken into consideration at all. Santa Fe is expensive and even doubly so if you are still working and discover what salaries are like. Still considering Santa Fe?? Bring plenty of your own money!
Beistie
of CA
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Jun 07, 2009 15:13:33 PM
Columbus, Ga... you're kidding, right???
I live almost midway between Columbus and Albany out in the sticks. It's closer for me to go to Columbus, but I'd really rather have my arm broken than have to go there. That is the RUDEST bunch of people I've ever had the displeasure of encountering. The traffic is akin to Atlanta, and that ain't good folks.The road system is a nightmare. Most of the business employees act like they are doing you a favor by putting up with you.
I go to Albany, Ga. to do my shopping. (A little over 1 hour SE). The folks in Albany are wonderful, and the city is well maintained. If you want to encounter true Southern hospitality try Albany. It's a wee bit smaller, but it's growing fast. Albany has most of the amenities Columbus does. I've run into many folks from the North that have already figured this out and moved there. (I'm a 5th gen. Tampa Bay Florida native, and hubby is a native Georgian that came home and drug me along, lol.)
san jose of CA @ Oct 20, 2009 23:48:04 PM
Kathryn of NJ @ Jul 27, 2009 16:34:19 PM
Lilli @ Jun 23, 2009 14:59:53 PM
jamesinmx @ Jun 23, 2009 09:01:01 AM
Aysha Griffin of NM @ Jun 21, 2009 20:53:18 PM
Kathy of CA @ Jun 12, 2009 23:24:06 PM
Brian of HI @ Jun 11, 2009 15:34:38 PM
Stephanie of CA @ Jun 09, 2009 15:23:43 PM
Beistie of CA @ Jun 07, 2009 15:13:33 PM
Maryjane of GA @ Mar 13, 2009 15:44:36 PM
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