When Parents Move in With Their Adult Kids

Grandparents rising great grand kids.

I am 81.My wife is 77. I have a grandson 26 with medical problems. A one year old baby girl. Her mother left both of them. Said she was not happy. My grandson and great grand daughter receives medical care and food stamps.My grandson is waiting for social security to kick in.He lives in a city housing project.Many parents are helping their grand kids. When our children become adults many can't plan a budget.We have one son who is a drug addict,52 years old.His wifes parents are rising three daughters.I have another son who can't maintain a check book. Married two times.One of is former wifes is on her third marriage.Being retired militry helps. I pray to the lord each day and just take it one day at a time. I keep wondering if our country will make it into the future. I pray for the families who are having hard times trying to make it each day. My wife and I have been married for 55 years. We both reach out to help others when we can. I just want to tell others.Take it one day at a time. I pray that our President-elect Mr. Obama gets all the support he needs,come January 20th

of GA @ Nov 29, 2008 03:25:00 AM

Respite Care at an assisted living center.

James please check your neighborhood for an assisted living center that takes seniors for

Temporary respite care. My dad went originally for 1 month & stayed all summer(he could

afford it.) He had 3 meals a day. Laundry service, shower assistance, his tv in his

room,etc. I prepared his rx's a week at a time & they would check that he took them. So

we almost had the summer off. His room included a mini-frig & microwave, basic cable &

he used his cell phone. We took him to MD appointments but they could have done it if we

wanted. Just visit the places, look for reviews on the internet, some offer weekly

rates, etc.

Good Luck &

take care of yourself & your wife.

Sine Nomine of TX @ Oct 17, 2008 18:29:03 PM

I sympathize with you. My MIL lived in our house for 1 year while my husband built on an apartment for her and the only way I got through it was knowing it would end at some point. There are some things you can do. Take control again. Set up an area that is for your MIL so she can have her own privacy. Put a tv in her room, a table for activities and a comfortable chair. Sit down and have a family conference and let her know what she can and cannot do in your home. You need to get your wife on board first and have a heart to heart discussion with her and let her know how this is affecting you. By setting rules and telling your MIL that you and your wife need your own time together in your own home will let her know what her boundaries are as well. Once you get your homelife back to some semblance of normalcy, you can then plan your vacation with your wife. If your MIL needs someone to care for her while you are away, there are agencies that will provide caregivers. Research it on the internet. If your MIL is entering your bedroom while you are out of the house, have a lock put on the door. You need to stand up for yourself and in a confident way. After all this is your home too. Best of luck to you.

Wendy of MA @ Oct 10, 2008 17:20:26 PM