How to Be Positive During Tough Times

Here's why it's so important to stop complaining

By Liz Wolgemuth

Posted: July 30, 2008

Jon Gordon

Jon Gordon

Is gratitude in short supply?
No doubt. OK, you're paying $4 a gallon for gas, and I'm as upset as anybody. But you can say: 'We're not paying $8 a gallon. And we live in a free country. We live with so many amenities. We live with so many free things that we can enjoy.'... Instead of focusing on that complaint, you can now be grateful for what you have. And which emotion's going to uplift you? Gratitude. Which one's going to enhance your longevity? Gratitude. Which one will strengthen your immune system? Gratitude.

It seems an unusual topic for the workplace.
It's harder in the workplace, and it's not as natural. A great example is Doug Conant, the CEO of Campbell Soup. He's written 16,000 thank-you notes to his employees over the last seven years. The No. 1 reason that people leave their jobs is because they don't feel appreciated. It's not only being thankful for your job, but being thankful for the others that you work with.

How successful are some corporate programs aimed at increasing positivity?
It has to permeate the organization. It has to be part of your DNA, of who you are. It works if it's sincere. It works if it's real, and if people know you really care about them. I can walk into a restaurant and tell if it's a fake smile or it's real. You can walk into a company and tell whether it's real or not.

You say that negativity fills voids. What voids should companies look out for?
If employees don't feel seen or heard, or they don't hear and see, they don't know what's going on and they don't feel communicated with, we will assume the worst. And the great example of that is cancer. Cancer sits alone in the body. It starts acting alone. It's the same way with a company. If you think you are alone, you'll act alone. But if you feel like you're part of the body, part of the whole, then you'll support the whole.

complaining

I do not have time to complain. I am retired and endeavouring to get my house in order. Complaining just does not make my workload any easier. Perhaps initially, I do complain that there is so much to do. However, I am alive and well thanks to God.

JayJayJns @ May 11, 2009 14:29:50 PM

I almost Hate the US for what it has gotten the us in to.

Well we'll see what happens nrxt

m.jK: k; lzkuzkuhui of CA @ Oct 11, 2008 14:30:46 PM

Agree 100%

I loved this article, it is absolutely true for the most part. Many times people find themselves in work envioronments that need change, but even in these cases a person is better equiped to deal with the challenges of the work place or to make a decision to change jobs when their attitude is positive.

The thing about negativity is that it doesn't just sap a person's energy it also diminishes a person's ability to think logically and clearly. If you are truly a negative person, you probably do not see that you are negative. I have read the comments that say this article is simplistic and I wish those people who think this would actually try to keep track of their negative thoughts and change them or let them pass without dwelling on them. There is nothing simple about that. For someone like me who grew up in a home full of non-stop negative popoganda this is hard work, but absolutely worth it!

I cannot express adequetly how much better I feel about myself, how much more clear my thinking is, or how much happier I am since I started working on positivity. I think having a lot of unresolved issues and bitterness also keeps people in negative thought spirals.

The truth is, over-analysing things so we can blame someone else for our misery is a complicated intellectual exercise that comes easily to many people. Becoming aware of your personal issues and thought patterns so you can deal with these things is hard work.

Thank you for this article. I loved it!

Angela of VA @ Oct 05, 2008 19:02:03 PM

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