I don't think Schmoozing is something to be ashamed of. In fact, as the story stated at the end being sincere about is a good thing. I have always been sincere, I know what it takes to get the job done and believe it or not schmoozing is one of them. Don't be a jerk about it, you must truely put yourself out there. The way I have always looked at a job is you spend majority of your daily life there you might as well make the best of it. People don't understand that you put almost more time into your job than your family so you might as well make your job part of your family as well. I put more than 150% into my job so I am going to make the best of it. Schmoozing is part of it.
Steph
of FL
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Oct 31, 2008 14:53:59 PM
Schmoozing
Several of you mention that only the weak or less qualified individuals are "schmoozers" but when working in an organization where your peers have similar credentials and are all 'eyeing' the corner office or promotion you do whatever it takes (within reason) to reach that goal.
Sure, once I get into my 40's I'll switch over to a 'coasting' mode and will focus more of my attention on my family. But for now, my goal is to grow my career as quickly as I grow my retirement account.
MG
of GA
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Apr 30, 2008 22:02:17 PM
Smoozers
Now entering the twilight of my years it is only very lately that I learned how important smoozing is and started to apply that skill. I wish that I had learned the importance of it all thiry-five years ago when I was entering the business world of getting ahead and getting along with others.
L Shapiro
of IL
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Apr 29, 2008 13:28:22 PM
schmoozing
in my country we call it ''eye service''. i never liked it and missed a lot because i did not practice it. In the real world, merit seems to have only about 20% of attention. Those the boss likes, he promotes and ''raises'' and my observation has shown that more than 80% of these ''benefactors'' are schmoozers. As much as i hate it, i have two options; if you can't beat them, join them. What a shame?
sly(Nigeria).
of
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Apr 29, 2008 07:57:34 AM
Just the facts Mamm, just the facts...
This is all bunk...I told my wife that too, just after I asked what was for dinner sweetheart, cutiepie, babydoll!
;-)
IVAN the terrible
of CA
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Apr 29, 2008 01:13:47 AM
Schmoozing
The article is very interesting and unfortunately true. However, one comment here caught my attention more than the article, wherein one reader says its relationships. I personally would not have problem with people developing interpersonal relationships, but then again, unfortunately for some of us, it is usually the person having the least "work" skills (technical or otherwise), end up doing "interpersonal relationship" the best and ending up in top positions. And then it becomes a nightmare for the team or the person’s subordinates. There is nothing worse in a work environment to have a completely incompetent boss who is a charmer. These kinds of bosses would take your work, and present it in a light as if it was of their own. What a big shame.
HA
of MO
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Apr 28, 2008 12:50:14 PM
Rules of the English Language
Regarding the article referring to the boss as "him," it is a rule of the English language that the male pronoun is used when referring to a person of unknown gender.
This is sexist, but it is correct grammar.
of IA
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Apr 28, 2008 12:41:45 PM
"You may know the type, those people who spend more time in the boss's office chatting him up ...."
There are 10 bosses my head-office, seven of them are female. So, boss is not always male.
JD
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Apr 28, 2008 12:00:07 PM
"You may know the type, those people who spend more time in the boss's office chatting him up..."
My boss is a female. Please take this into consideration in the future.
DK
of NY
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Apr 28, 2008 11:01:11 AM
Shmoozing
The article whie it is entitled "schmoozing " is not reall schmoozing or sucking up it is called relationships and getting to know the people you worked with. Life is about relationshps in the end. If you are being honest and sincere about the compliments you give then it is not sucking up.
Steph of FL @ Oct 31, 2008 14:53:59 PM
MG of GA @ Apr 30, 2008 22:02:17 PM
L Shapiro of IL @ Apr 29, 2008 13:28:22 PM
sly(Nigeria). of @ Apr 29, 2008 07:57:34 AM
IVAN the terrible of CA @ Apr 29, 2008 01:13:47 AM
HA of MO @ Apr 28, 2008 12:50:14 PM
of IA @ Apr 28, 2008 12:41:45 PM
JD @ Apr 28, 2008 12:00:07 PM
DK of NY @ Apr 28, 2008 11:01:11 AM
susn of GA @ Apr 28, 2008 10:34:24 AM
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