Handling Favoritism at Work

So advice is to accept favoritism?

So the advice is basically try to make the boss see you in a favorable light? Try to make her change her favoritism ways ?

Well what about favoritism that goes against you when the female boss just doesn't like you, and is petty, sneaky, irrational, is a bitch, etc.? The problem in cases of favoritism is the boss is WRONG. There is a WRONG and RIGHT, and these types of articles say let the bosses act in the WRONG there's nothing you can do about it other than try to get them to like you or be exceptional (but have you considered that you can overwork and be exceptional yet she still doesn't like you so too bad?). Is that just the way it is? They can make you lose your job but they can't lose theirs for sickly inconsistent treatment of employees? Just is not right.

Lydia of CA @ May 06, 2009 06:04:38 AM

sick of the memos and no follow through...

I am so sick of signing memo after memo to follow this policy and this policy, keep in mind that EVERYONE has to sign, but a month later its okay for the people in the other departments to disregard the memo signed and do whatever they please and get away with it. Talking on cell phones during work hours. Receiving personal calls at the work place. Looking on the internet not work related, during work hours. Its okay for other people in other departments to get away with it but when my department says anything, we're that bad ones that we feel that we're in the wrong and we have been told, if we don't like it, we can leave. If this is said to me one more time, I'm walking and never looking back.

h. of WI @ Jan 13, 2009 20:01:07 PM

I never mess around when it comes to my job, but the people who get ahead where I work are my bosses relatives, buddies those who will miss work weeks at a time.

I have applied for ever poistion open and he will give to a favorite who have missed work more times I have been there, which has been 6 yrs , 7 days missed.

I applies for loss poistion superviors and I ger shuffle around ever week. the worse you function at my job is the better you get treated.

The sick thing is these are the people who have no respect for the the managment who is letting them have what they want.

They have trained a unrealiable employees for poistion I do know. been called names , scream at it is somethinf everyday

I have been denied a raise while everyone received one, I have went and talk to them but I always regret it

The worse thing is there is nothing or no one who will assist you or cares' it is not agaist the law or any crime to treat employees in the worse way possible.

To use them for poistion until a favoriet or buddie, realtive or one who gossips and lies to thier advanage .

I just had minor surgey done and took my vacation time 1 week for it, when I came back a girl who had been missing more than a month was promoted, this girl was caught leaving work while on duty, failed drug tests, among so many other things things that have been swept under the rug.

I am a good worker and follow the rules but I am so tired of the bull the managment causes.

I do know in life what you sow is what you will reap later in life. I am tired of being the pouching bag

Sylvia Smith of CA @ Aug 11, 2008 17:10:26 PM

What to do when the boss is the owner?

All of my boss's friends work at the company (including his girlfriend). I've heard (from my boss's ex-girlfriend/ex-employee) that a guy in my same position (with a non-related degree) is making 50% more than me. And I have visibly seen other perks, from working shortened days to bonuses to company credit cards.

What can I do when the boss is the owner of the company?

Selena of TX @ Jul 16, 2008 11:16:32 AM

Favoritism? Let me tell you...

I have more college and more manufacturing experience than all of the ladies in our company. Three of them are the bosses' favorites. One hasn't a clue about how to do her job. He told me that he gave her the job over me. "It's just your bad luck that my friend came to me about a job and I gave her this one." One can do no wrong. She's an accountant (a bad one) and a complete airhead. The other? She's just plain lazy. Spends all of her time planning her vacations or looking up her kids' school crap on the internet, and the boss is always taking her to lunch or dinner to gossip about everyone else. She tells him how busy she is (ha) and so I get dumped on with stuff she doesn't want to do. And any time anyone goes on vacation, guess what? I get to fill in for them. I know he respects my work ethic, he's said so to numerous people. So why doesn't he promote me or give me a decent raise? Seems like the harder you work, the more you get crapped on. I stay here because it's the only decent company in the town I live in. I can't afford to commute any more.

Adlee of TN @ Jul 01, 2008 12:14:18 PM

Favortism

6. Buddy up to the boss where you can (taking care to keep your self-respect in the process). If you're at all interested in his or her favorite sport or hobby, give it a try so that you have something other than work to talk about when you find yourself sharing an elevator with the boss.

Hard to buddy up with the boss when he is based oversea. The culture in my company is if you have a management title, then you are invited to join weekly telecon meetings and you have a chance for input. My direct manager takes credits for my suggestions and ideas for herself. It is an asian owned company which there are many layers of management and if your title is not AVP or above, it is hard to make yourself taken seriously.

of VA @ Jun 09, 2008 09:11:31 AM

Favoritism

Any don't neglect the family owned companies out there, I work for one. The family always comes first, whether it is extra time off or raises, or even a bonus. The family will always come first, you come in second every time. Even if you are more qualified, work harder, show up on time and wear more hats than anyone else in the office. It is a hard situation to be involved in and frankly, an impossible one to penetrate at any level. Been there, done that, am still here and like most people in the state of Michigan I am pretty much stuck here until something better opens up! Which may not happen for a very long while.

Linda of MI @ Apr 28, 2008 12:39:49 PM

Copy Editors Available?

Yet again, please keep in mind that these articles are difficult to take seriously when they arent written with female bosses in mind.

"1. Don't try to shoot down the favorite, no matter how tempting it might be to correct him in meetings or point out to the boss when he's way underqualified for that project you wanted, Birkel advises."

of @ Apr 28, 2008 11:04:37 AM