The Inside Job

Why Work When You Can Live Off Your Parents?

By Liz Wolgemuth

Posted: December 4, 2008

A reader's plea to the folks over at the Freakonomics blog:

"I am living with my stepfather and don’t pay rent or food expenses. I am not pressured to find work from my stepdad or my mother, who lives in another city for work. I fear I have no incentive to work."

This reader has discovered what many of us already know well: "If I move out, my comfortability will plummet. I will have to get a low-paying job just to pay the bills." Nonetheless, a concession: "The problem is I am self-loathing because I depend on other people. I want to be working and paying for myself, but I haven’t the motivation."

Many of the Freakonomics commenters noted that the desire to stop the self-loathing ought to be decent motivation to get a job. Others pointed out the disadvantages of maintaining his current lifestyle: It'll be tough to explain such a significant gap in work history when he is finally forced to get a job, and the chances of finding a mate who finds such a lifestyle attractive are rather small.

I'm curious to know: Does anyone else know someone who seems to struggle with this dilemma? Is this guy's issue pretty unusual?

 

cultural perspective

It really depends on the country and culture where the guy is living. In the Eastern Europe and in certain parts of Asia, this sort of lifestyle is OK, even required. This does not have to be connected with only economic factors, but with cultural as well. The benefit of this lifestyle is the increased sense of belonging and enhanced relationship with his parents.

This also goes the other way around. When the parents will get old and need some assistance and care, this relationship is going to be beneficial for them as well - there will be their child (and probably his wife) who will be able to take care of them.

His lack of go-getting attitude to life may be influenced by the aforementioned factors - economic advantages of living with the family and the presence of compassion for his parents. Think about it.

Honza @ Dec 22, 2008 08:48:40 AM

get up and stand up

Agree totally! Parents are at fault as so is the Federal housing authority which allows section 8 recipents to live free indefinitely while parents and young adults who have children of there own who continually inpregnate their girlfriends to remain without any motivation for them to look for jobs to better themselves. The government puts no stipulations, only allows to take advantage of resources like food stamps, leap and other agencies that hand out cash without checking former work history that qualify as future to be employable.

For you who do not know what crisis this is to have someone living off of US housing authority it is not required for applicant to explore avenues of employment and they do not put any kind of respect to others they are allowed to live and act without consequences.

jaycee jones of CO @ Dec 09, 2008 11:29:47 AM

get up and stand up

Agree totally! Parents are at fault as so is the Federal housing authority which allows section 8 recipents to live free indefinitely while parents and young adults who have children of there own who continually inpregnate their girlfriends to remain without any motivation for them to look for jobs to better themselves. The government puts no stipulations, only allows to take advantage of resources like food stamps, leap and other agencies that hand out cash without checking former work history that qualify as future to be employable.

For you who do not know what crisis this is to have someone living off of US housing authority it is not required for applicant to explore avenues of employment and they do not put any kind of respect to others they are allowed to live and act without consequences.

colorado citizen of @ Dec 09, 2008 10:59:09 AM

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