How to Handle a Boss Who Yells

Human

An employer is human and may have an organic underlying psychological problem. Observe to see if your boss reacts to stress by yelling regardless of who they are speaking to. Yelling often shows a deficit in management style and personal management NOT in what the particular person that is being managed has done. Often we get mad at ourselves for not being proactive enough with staff. Always be careful that you are not doing something to be yelled at for. Ask clarifying statements like; what is the priority of this activity, when is the deadline, is the deadline hard or soft, if I need help who do I go to, can I come back to you to assist me, is there a template that you would like me to follow, etc. Everyone deserves a level of respect, your boss should never yell at you.

Kennith of CA @ Oct 01, 2009 14:29:45 PM

Yelling - Unacceptable Behavior

Dear Joe-General Manager at Major Corporation,

You're an idiot. People like you DO NOT know how to manage people. When people quit, most often it is because of INCOMPETENT management like yourself, so in the end it is YOU who is costing your company money. Dumb @$$.

For anyone who is reading this, DO NOT tolerate yelling. It is unprofessional, disrespectful and emotionally abusive. Everyone deserves to be able to work in a non-hostile environment. You have rights!

sqn of MA @ Sep 25, 2009 07:08:18 AM

Joe- General Manager of a Major Corporation

Let me explain something to all of you bottom feeding underlings.

By the time your Boss starts yelling, you are already at a point that

your incompetence is costing the company money. What he/she should

really be doing instead of yelling at you, is FIRING you, because God

only knows that there is a line of people that could do your job more efficiently

at a lower rate of pay! Cry babies!

Joe of NJ @ Sep 10, 2009 14:17:58 PM

My boss mobbed me out - antimobbing law needed

I got my dream job in my dream company 2 years ago. My boss was much younger and did not have managerial experience (his previous was a training job). He was hired 7 months before me on a premise that he had an accomplishment that in actuality never realized. I believe he hired me with my experience and real accomplishments so I helped to create his accomplishments. He also had vastly different cultural backgrounds that assumed a subordinate female to be automatically inferior.

He was bullish from the beginning and a few months into my work started to yell at me at 1:1 meetings. I asked why he yelled and he said that if I imagined things it was my problem. I worked extremely hard and was getting very good data that I was proud of. My 1st review was a shock. He brought into it a slew of little things with my actual and perceived faults. I only partially met his expectations. I learned that I could appeal the review but decided not to because the protocol for appeal involved the whole chain of command up to the VP. I hoped that it was possible with best intentions from both sides to overcome problems. Things however only got worse; my boss started to have meetings called "performance issues". Example: I never worked in corporation and did not guess to cc my boss one email - that was a reason for one such meeting. My boss was hitting his chest and yelled: if you need to ask someone - ask me! I requested help of HR. HR apparently spoke with him because yelling stopped. Our 1:1 meetings became !:2 (a boss of my boss was present), and not in his office. By then he had his bosses brainwashed about me and on his side joining in his mobbing effort. The picking up on small and perceived things worsened. By then I missed the appeal deadline; I worked extremely hard days and nights and weekends and was getting very good data. I foolishly believed that my good work will get me a decent review. Once in the midst of my work my boss called a performance issues meeting where he accused me of yelling at him and thus his expectations were to be reset; he was referring to what has happened over a month ago when I had my iPod louder than usual (I was bitten up a week before with the police report etc. and I was shaken then). I explained the situation and thought it was over but this accusation made its way on my second review along with a slew of small things real and not my boss apparently was keeping track of. Despite meeting every single one of my goals tiers 1,2,3 - I only partially met his expectations. Getting such review for the hard work I' done made me very sick for 2 weeks. When I came back I had extreme troubles communicating with my boss. I spoke with director but that was no help. I developed severe depression. Employee relations investigation did not find any policy violations and concluded my boss did everything right. 2 bad reviews let him put him on PIP then fire me from one of 10 best places to work for in US for "my performance"

Jane Doe of CA @ Sep 07, 2009 02:40:16 AM

Yelling in the workplace

What do you do in the meantime while staying at this job, just put up with the yelling? Walk out of the room? what about when they demand you sit, stand come back in the room? I dont think so.. and all this because they pay you? ha! I can tell you , they can never pay you enough to be mistreated and abused, and I have been abused on over 35 different jobs.

noyb of OH @ Jun 29, 2009 05:18:01 AM

Boss who yells

A Boss who Yells is not reallya person of subtains. Not a good person a person He himself is doubtful of himself. Naracistic self center dumb not educated at all at his tasks to run a business sucessfully. Joe B

Joe Birbiglia of NY @ Jun 06, 2009 12:39:56 PM

No one should have to put up with that

Agreed that he should start looking for new jobs - looking being the operative word. Even with the economy the way it is and quitting not seeming like an option, the reader should put his feelers out there, network, work on his resume...because when the economy does start to recover, his hard work will pay off and those companies/people he made the effort to get to know that are now in the position to hire will have him front-of-mind.

Mary of IL @ Jan 29, 2009 16:09:40 PM