I completely understand. My boss is very talented, but is over analytical and picks out every little thing that I do, but never compliments me on what I do good for the company.
For example, I just threw an event that was very successful. People are writing on our website about how great it was and I am also receiving cards. I was over budget by $50.00, but I saved $600 on the room rental. There was no way I could have done it for any cheaper, considering there were over 200 people at the concert....
Anyway, I am soooo sick of it. I feel like the next time she does it, I will snap.
I KNOW I am doing a good job, but am not sure how to handle when she does this. Any suggestions? By the way, we are both single and close to 30.
Jeanelle
of OR
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Jun 10, 2009 19:40:39 PM
Bad Boss
I have been dealing with a tyrant of a boss for over 2 years now. I have worked for this company 10 years and have had my share of bad bosses with this company and others, but this guy takes the cake. For some reason, he finds pleasure in belittling me and tearing my confidence down in my abilities. He nit picks me to death and nothing I do is ever good enough. This is ironic considering that the overall level of satisfaction amongst my customers is high and also with my colleagues. The statistics also show that I have been improving month after month, but he always has to find something to tear me apart about.
I think companies should not only evaluate a person's ability to do the job but should also evaluate their personality flaws. He knows it destroys me inside every time he calls me in the office to tear me down. He thrives on it. I try so hard to not react the way he wants, but sometimes it is just more than I can bear.
I would love suggestions. I have always loved my job and working with customers and I am good at it, but more and more I am beginning to hate my job because of my boss. I want so badly to quit, but I can't afford to. He is making my professional life a living hell, he knows it and he loves watching me squirm.
I am sick of it! When I try to stand up for myself, he uses it against me. What do I do?
not telling
of KS
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Apr 02, 2009 19:38:16 PM
boss' wife is a pest...
I work as an executive assistant for a very senior level executive at a major firm in NYC. I recently advanced into this position and thought it would be a great position to develop new administrative skills. How wrong I was. The boss' wife has nothing better to do than call all day and when she can't speak to her husband, she expects me to chat with her. Now I try to be cordial and offer the "hi, how are you" exchange of chat, but the truth is I could care less about getting to know her or listening to her compalin about her day. I have work to do, phones to answer and meetings to attend. It has become a problem over the past 6 months and I do intend on finding another positon, I am just waiting to find the right one and this is a tough economy to look for another job. When I interviewd for this position it was not disclosed that the wife would be calling all day... I don;t think she realizes how pathetic she is. I think if you are going to marry someone who is a work-a-holic and travels all the time you need to also realize you are going to be alone all the time... the wives are always so curious of the husband's assistant.
work wife
of NY
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Jan 28, 2009 21:32:13 PM
Bad Boss
I have to agree with the first comment on this topic. Companies do not thoroughly test individuals for their leadership roles.
An example would be the previous boss that I had. I didn't see him a lot, but when I needed something I could easily contact this individual and they were right on task. If you had a concern the individual would work to resolve it. Granted, we had some issues in the beginning, but we learned how to deal with one another and make our interactions easier.
The boss I have now is a sharp contrast. They are the boss and that is how it is. End of story, especially when things aren't going at peak capacity, expects me to deal with issues of my peers a lot more heavily than I should, and even 'jokes' around in a confrontational manner. Only to add 'I'm just kidding' right at the end. As though it is a fail safe. - Obviously an individual unable to handle the position. It is at a level where I no longer enjoy my job. All based on what I have to deal with from him and not the actual tasks associated with the job itself.
of IL
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Oct 23, 2008 08:21:17 AM
Bad Boss
In my lifetime, I have learned that "my immediate first-line boss IS my job"; regardless of the rest of the line, if the first level is bad, it is all perceived to be equally bad. Most corporations fail to realize that if I have a bad boss, I have a bad job, and thus work for a bad company. They can sponsor all of the CEO worship that they want, but this fact still stands.
Oh yes, and just try going over the first-line's head. Sure!
I find it amazing that my first-line rates me on my job, but I never heard of my second-line rating my first-line. Some companies have the employee opinion program, but too few of them seem to really pay attention to the surveys.
When a project failed, I did what I was told, how I was told, with the tools that I was given. Therefore, I was commanded a task that I couldn't skillfully handle, or else I was commanded in error. When a project doesn't succeed, someone needs to look beyond the workers.
All people and all corporations need to realize one fact of human nature -- Not all people can handle authority. When a boss is put over another person, even just one, that boss should be monitored and evaluated. At the first sign of not handling authority, there should be a discussion and improvement session, or a move to a non-authority position. Corporations lose too much when experienced people leave, and the next one ... How many must go before they realize that the bad egg is over the group, not one of the group?
Jeanelle of OR @ Jun 10, 2009 19:40:39 PM
not telling of KS @ Apr 02, 2009 19:38:16 PM
work wife of NY @ Jan 28, 2009 21:32:13 PM
of IL @ Oct 23, 2008 08:21:17 AM
gary of TX @ Jul 01, 2008 14:56:04 PM
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