Starting Over, Financially

Thank God for what you do have

I had a massive stroke at 23 years of age. One minute I was asn assistant supervisor, running three departments single handedly & the next I couldn't even sit up, much less walk or move my left hand. I learned the hard way that you can't even crawl w/an entire side paralyized.

When I was wheeled into the Rehab center which was to become my home for a month, I learned a VERY IMPORTANT lesson: There is ALWAYS someone worse off than you are. I was young, so I rehabbed fairly quickly.

On the other hand, I will be living with my deficits for probably close to fifty years.

My husband became abusive because I copuldn't wait on him hand & foot, anymore. One thing seems to make the other thing topple as well.

Feeling sorry fpor myself is not my intention. My faith took me through my stroke, & the dealth of my hubby at 29 years of age. I had three young boys to raise single-handedly. At 7, 3, & nine months old, they had to adjust to being raised by a single, disabled Mom. We all survived. My boys are men now. My oldest made me a Grandmother at 44. I married my childhood sweetheart eleven years ago. My life is good, now.

"This too shall pass". It is true.

Find something to stand on & hold on tight, just make sure it is immoveable.

Renee Newman of MO @ Sep 21, 2008 23:44:10 PM

THANKS!

It is not the end of the world! Right! I have lost health and money. Fine! there are so many things that can be done as long as we are alive.Build a business! I assure you I can share with you what I'm doing!Interested? write me:bentenden@yahoo.com

And give thanks to whoever it is for the free air we breathe!

Benita of @ Sep 21, 2008 18:42:16 PM

loosing job/money

he's only 33 imagen people in their fifties?...I'd like to go back to school but I wonder is it worth it at 54 to make a better pension?...can somebody answer that?

Rosi @ Sep 21, 2008 17:44:46 PM

Groundhog Day

I think many of us have experienced the same thing. As a few others have wrote, many have lost money, jobs, and loved ones througout the years. Although not the sadest, it seems like the financial aspect has hit almost everyone that has tried to leap over that 'middle-class' hurdle. Prior to 2000, folks were making $$$ investing in the stock market. The ones that got in and jumped straight out kept some money. The rest lost it. Then when 2000 hit, many saw home ownership as a lottery and started grabbing not only their piece of the pie, but more. Some took second mortgage loans on their second, or third home to buy their fourth and fifth. Again, if they were really lucky, they got out before it 'burst' as we all heard was impossible (when many compared it to the stock bubble). Almost a decade latter, and the tax payers are bailing out the housing market, which hits those that have just been plugging along. Eveyone pays for mistakes. The family that took the second mortgage to put in the pool, or go on an expensive vacation, buy a sports car, and so forth, is the same family that walked away from their home, because it went up $300. Anyone can quit. I know so many people have debt that they have refused to be rid of. Me too. Should we all just throw in the towel? What good does a 700 score do you when banks now have to lower their standard in order to loan money out? Now we're bailing out Money Markets, and foreign banks. I'm the one that's pessimistic and tired of it all. WHEN and HOW will we ever find another stable economy in America? Everyone wants a fast buck, and nobody wants to work hard. I've had so many friends that were getting ahead to lose everything and are now renting or living with parents/relatives. It's very sad. My older friends (68-98) are losing their wealth to health issues, because insurance programs are lacking and nobody cares about the elderly. If you've seen "Into the Wild", I think you can start to understand why Christopher McCandless left society.

Rob of NC @ Sep 21, 2008 16:07:49 PM

Staring over

Remember, when God closes a door he opens a window; even if sometimes there appears to be hell in the hallway. The man you lost was not the partner you needed in life. Living well is the best revenge!

Lady P of NY @ Sep 21, 2008 16:07:29 PM

Not the end of the world

20 years ago I got divorced. I lost everything except my sanity.Then I started a parking lot with 10 bucks Made some good money. Then I bought some houses with no money down, made more money. Then I started a valet parking buisness for Logan Airport customers. www.loganairportvaletparking.com I make money, have a great girl friend, drive a new car and go on trips. Life is what you make out of it.

Bill Bell of MA @ Sep 21, 2008 13:56:52 PM

Another book of motivation

The Bible

of IL @ Sep 21, 2008 13:32:13 PM

hang in there mam.

As deeply as u hurt, it isnt the end of the world. it will seem to be the end, but only as u knew it was. I'm a man who divorced and gave everything to my former spouse, lost my business, and was recalled to the military and am in the process of filing bankruptcy, and am terribly disenchanted with the whole situation. So, I can relate.

The one thing that you need is inside of you. It is up to you to find the will to overcome. As far as going back to school, well I'm 42 and doing the same. Yes its hard, and yes it is not what you had planned, but somewhere deep down inside of you there is a place, a spot hiding a switch, its up to you to flip that switch to on. Only you can do it.

Seek the truth inside yourself, and cling to it, face it, and make friends with it. Faith is the biggest assistant and helper you will find. As we all struggle to overcome, we need to remember why it is all worth it. Love, and hapiness are our greatest assets. Love is the greatest thing I know of. It starts somewhere inside of us, and it grows. Find your reason, and cling to it. You can do it mam.

Mike Lilley of TX @ Jul 16, 2008 11:10:11 AM