New Sexual Activity Rules Enacted at Tufts

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nesttrous of AL 12:58PM July 28, 2010

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kikus of AL 7:28PM June 12, 2010

Meek means mild. Meek people have manners. The idea is that students should not have to haggle over rooms they paid for. That is the idea of enforcing the rule. If not then simpleminded people might think it okay to work out their weird psychosocial problems on a person who they don't really know. Just because someone is meek doesn't mean they are going to put up with perversions.

Faitheee Fakescoff of MT 2:22PM October 05, 2009

I had to sit my roommate down at least 15-20 times last year to talk about the sexiling. Once or twice is okay, but not when you know I have a test the next morning and want to sleep in my room, not for 10 hours midday, and please for the love of God, not on my bed, no matter what. The conversations we had were mature and seemingly productive ("Sure, man, sorry, won't happen again...") every time, until, hm, phonecall the next night to not come home AGAIN. I guarantee, students at the college level can obviously bring these things up with their roommates. As stated in the previous comment, at least now other students going through the same ridiculous problem as me will be able to cite some source of authority and a possible judicial response when telling their roommate(s) to relax with the sex when he'she needs the room, too.

Peter of NY 3:11AM October 01, 2009

I won't detail here the extent to which I was sexiled my freshman year at Tufts, but I will make two points. One, the fact that I could only sleep in my room maybe 2-3 nights a week and never actually complained to ResLife implies that for the number of complaints they actually received, several times as many such cases are occurring and going unreported.
Second, yes, I do believe that these sorts of issues should be maturely worked out with a roommate, but there is a plus side to this new policy. Even if no one in particular "enforces" it, the new policy can at least be cited by the sexiled individual during a necessary conversation with his/her roommate, such that they can state, "No, I'm not being a ridiculous, prude killjoy, this is just a basic respect issue, and the University agrees with me."
The number of times I've walked into my room at 10:00 A.M. after spending a night on the couch in the lounge and hearing the immediate retort from my roommate, "it's just because you're such a prude. Everyone does this, so get over it..." can't even be counted.

Dorm Resident 07-08 of MA 3:00AM October 01, 2009

As a recent Tufts graduate, I don’t really understand why this policy is making headlines. It’s nothing more than the institutionalization of a code of behavior that 99% of students already abide by. This policy is really aimed at certain Tufts freshmen who haven’t adapted to the freedom that comes with living away from their parents (and the subsequent responsibilities). Just because the word “SEX” is in the headline doesn’t mean it’s fit to print.

Michael of CA 2:53AM October 01, 2009

For more on this issue from the actual campus itself:
http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/science-small-talk/200909/thou-shalt-not-copulate

Tufts of MA 11:12PM September 29, 2009

The fact that is never mentioned in all of these articles (including the Tufts Daily article), is that is policy is not new. The Residents' Bill of Rights (inside cover of Habitats, the guide to on campus living) clearly states that students have "the right to free access to your room without pressure from your room mate(s)" and "the right to study [and] sleep without undue disturbances from noise, guests, room mate(s), etc." This includes "sexiling" and "performing for an audience" of one. This part of the policy needed to be spelled out because it was becoming more and more of an issue. Now, students have something specific to bring up when a room mate decides to be a jackass and do something like this. Like all the other policies set by the ORLL, the sentiment is always the same; don't be stupid and don't be inconsiderate. It's very easy to be grown up about this and make it a non-issue. Maybe it's time for some students here to get the point and wise up.

Matt of MA 11:05PM September 29, 2009

Couldn't agree more with "Absurd..."
Another nail in the coffin of common sense... Are you kidding me? This is a beautiful example of a complete nanny culture and the sheep who can see no other way than to ask Big Brother to step in on their behalf. Grow up, have a little self-respect and ask for it from others. Seems a very simple conversation to have between two people considered "adults" in the eyes of the law.
If nothing else, this speaks to quality of parenting (i.e., parents failing to encourage self-reliance) and the increased prevalence of self-important pansies running the institutions of higher learning here in America. Get over yourselves and your compulsion to micro-manage the lives of people who should be learning conflict resolution skills on their own. That the student body is not protesting this ridiculous invasion of their personal decision making process is truly shameful. Sheep.

adam c of MA 6:36PM September 29, 2009

why this problem of all the young having sex with each one another? respect the body of all and not touch in wrong way when other room has body in it.

Pham Nuc of AL 6:33PM September 29, 2009