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How to Address Anti-Gay Remarks in the Classroom

January 30, 2012 RSS Feed Print

If students don't feel comfortable in the classroom, they won't learn. In fact, they may not even show up to class, says Ryan Roemerman, executive director of the Iowa Pride Network, a nonprofit focused on strengthening the ties between gay and straight communities.

As the disturbing trend of bullying based on perceived sexual orientation grows—to the point of assaults and suicides— teachers need to be prepared to handle anti-gay remarks in high school classrooms.

While speaking to students about lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender (LGBT) issues may be a little uncomfortable for some teachers, especially those who don't feel strongly about the matter, Roemerman says that's not the point.

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"Just because you're intervening on a homophobic comment doesn't mean that you're necessarily trying to be an activist or anything like that," he says. "You're just trying to make sure that each child has a safe and supportive learning environment."

Some states have laws that protect LGBT students, which may make addressing homophobic slurs easier for teachers, Roemerman says. But teachers in every state can set up their own form of legislation within the classroom to prevent inappropriate remarks, he adds.

Roemerman suggests teachers host an open discussion with their class about what behavior and language students think is appropriate or inappropriate. Then, he says, each student signs an agreement to not use the language they deemed to be inappropriate.

If a student breaks the rules the class agreed on, the teacher can point to the document and say, "You agreed to this declaration. We all signed it as a class. You're not just offending me—you're offending everybody in the classroom," Roemerman says.

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With this student-signed agreement, there's less of a teacher versus student situation, Roemerman says.

If a student makes an inappropriate remark in front of the class, then the teacher should address him or her in front of the class, too. That way, the teacher makes it a "teachable moment," Roemerman says, and shows the targeted student that the situation was addressed.

Outside the classroom, teachers can support students they think are bullied by having a one-on-one conversation with them, says Roemerman. Instead of asking if they're being targeted or harassed, which may be a little off-putting to a student, he suggests asking a simple, open-ended question, such as "Hey, is everything OK?"

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"A lot of it's about listening, because most of the time, students will fill in the gaps of information," he says.

If the student doesn't want to talk, the teacher can just tell him or her that they're always willing to listen.

"It's about making sure the student knows that you are providing a safe place for them," Roemerman says. "If nothing else, that they know there's a supportive, caring adult that is asking the right questions."

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I agree, Nick. As teachers we can have allllll the personal opinions we like, as long as we keep them to ourselves in the classroom. It is not appropriate, especially in a job granted to you by the state, to embellish upon your own politics, religious beliefs, or otherwise controversial opinions in front of your classroom. That spotlight is meant for the dispelling of ideas regarding your subject matter, and helping to form THE STUDENTS' brains around challenging matters; not a soapbox for your preaching. Save that for your time at Church (and your own time).

Your passing comments have the potential to destroy whether you want to admit it or not.

JC of SC 2:13PM February 26, 2012

To the comment-writer before me, did you mean to write "I do think bullying is wrong, but for me to say 'being gay is sin' should be okay"? In any case, the matter at hand here is not religious conviction, it's fundamental respect. Although it is fine to have differing opinions, it is never okay to voice thoughts that encourage exclusion, isolation, torment, or fear. It's not because you don't "have a right to" do it. You certainly do. However, when you say, "I think being gay is a sin" to an influential gay teenager in his or her most fragile and formative years, you're basically setting the student up to fear you. Do you plan to help them through life, or encourage them along the way? No, probably not. You probably just want them to know that you've charged them with sin and you dislike their innate identity. You'll move on with your day. The scars of your indiscretion will last a lifetime in the mind of the person you've unleashed upon. Education is meant to encourage the next generations, expand their opportunities, and develop their confidence. It's sad when people forget that education isn't about a political agenda. It is our role as the educators to inspire our students, and encourage open-minded interaction.

Nick of OH 4:08AM February 01, 2012

I do think bullying is wrong but for me to say that bullying is sin is okay. It's my personal conviction just like it's their personal conviction that being gay is okay. But I do understand some people do bully and get out of hand. That, I don't agree with. Just make sure you understand that I too have a right to make my opinions clear.

Luis of TX 11:15AM January 30, 2012

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