Abstinence-Only Education Debate Resurfaces

I agree with Ms. Hauser in that all types of contraceptives should be taught, including abstinence. But, this is more than a question of whether contraceptives such as birth control and condoms should be taught in sexual education courses around the country. Condoms and other items known as “contraceptives” are also protectants against diseases such as HIV/AIDS and can be used by people who are heterosexual, lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, or queer. As a result, these items should be taught as “protective” devices rather than “contraceptives” because not all people who have sex can get pregnant, and not all people are trying to protect themselves against becoming pregnant by using condoms, etc.

On another note, consent is not taught in sexual education programs. This is why abstinence-only sexual education is problematic. It ignores the fact that some teenagers do have sex, and some teenagers do perform sexual acts. In recognizing this, protective devices should be emphasized and consent should be explained and emphasized repeatedly. Some people do not understand what consent is until they are in their twenties. It is important to teach that sex is the mutual enjoyment between two people (or among several people) in which all participants have provided an enthusiastic, sober “yes!”. Rape and sexual assault should be explicitly defined by a police officer to students.

Abusive relationships can also be addressed in sexual education in public schools. Physical, mental, emotional, financial, and sexual abuse should be explained, as well as signs of abusive relationships and what to do if you or someone you know is in an abusive relationship. Extensive research should be done on abusive relationships if this is going to be taught so as to prevent teaching “just break up with your partner” as a solution.

Finally, it’s important for sexual educators to provide resources for survivors of sexual assault. For the students in high school and middle school who have experienced sexual assault, it is likely very difficult to find resources or help if this occurs, especially if a survivor is confused, scared, or embarrassed.

State policies for sex education need to be re-written to implement these things into sexual education for students in public school systems.

Persia of NC 12:34AM April 24, 2013