Sanford's Argentina Affair Is a Lesson on Character and Power
A straight shooter strays, and one wonders how to feel
Linda Killian is the author of The Freshmen: What Happened to the Republican Revolution? She is a professor of journalism and director of the Boston University Washington Center and a senior scholar at the Woodrow Wilson International Center for Scholars.
It's no big surprise that yet another political figure has been involved in an affair or sexual indiscretion. But as someone who has known Mark Sanford since he was elected to Congress in 1994 as part of the class that gave House Republicans their historic majority, I must admit to being shocked. And I wasn't the only one.
"I was blown away—completely stunned," one of his congressional Republican colleagues told me.
Sanford has always appeared to be a highly principled straight shooter—a fiscal conservative, almost to the point of eccentricity, as illustrated by the recent battle he waged as governor of South Carolina not to accept federal stimulus money.
Soft-spoken but with a tendency to say exactly what he thought, he was a supporter of campaign finance reform who didn't take PAC money for his campaigns. Although his family was of ample means, he slept in his congressional office when he was in Washington to save money and make a point. He believed in term limits and pledged to serve only three terms in the House, a promise that unlike some of his Class of '94 colleagues he kept, leaving Congress in 2000.
He was part of the group that challenged then House Speaker Newt Gingrich because they thought he had become an ineffective leader and was straying too far from the goals of a balanced budget and smaller government, ultimately resulting in Gingrich's resignation from the leadership and the House.
Now Gingrich and Sanford, both considered potential presidential candidates in 2012, have their infidelities in common. Gingrich was involved with his current—third—wife while still married to his second wife. Ironically, that relationship was going on at the same time as Bill Clinton's infamous dalliance with Monica Lewinsky.
In an interview with Maclean's in 1998, Sanford said of Congress, "This is a human institution. Take it as a given that weird stuff goes on." Indeed.
Sanford's Wednesday press conference certainly qualified as weird and was filled with the kind of personal confessions and details that might have more appropriately been discussed in a therapy session under the subject heading "The Heart Wants What the Heart Wants."
Sanford apologized to his family and to everyone who lives in South Carolina, he asked for forgiveness, he said he had hurt a lot of people and let people down, he admitted to acting selfishly, he talked about sin and God's law, he admitted lying to his staff about where he was, and he talked about the "remarkable friendship" he had developed with a woman in Buenos Aires.
If that weren't enough, some poetic E-mails between Sanford and his South American amour professing their love for each other and the impossibility of their relationship were released by the South Carolina newspaper The State.
Whoever thought we would be reading an E-mail from the governor of South Carolina to his lover that said, "My heart cries out for you, your voice, your body, the touch of your lips, the touch of your finger tips and an even deeper connection to your soul." Oh, boy.
One isn't quite sure whether to feel pity or disdain for Sanford.
You know your political career is on life support when you are featured in David Letterman's opening monologue, he continues to talk about you once he starts the show, and you are the subject of the Top Ten List all on the same night.
The schadenfreude that many people are feeling at Sanford's situation probably stems largely from the fact that whether it was family values or government spending, Sanford and other GOP members of the Class of '94 exuded a holier than thou morality and sense of superiority that has proven to be wholly unearned. John Ensign, Mark Foley, and Bob Ney were also members of the Class of '94, just to mention a few of the most recent of the group felled by scandal and misdeed.
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Reader Comments
His Christian counselors, should he sue them?
He mentioned the many times he took advice from Christian counselors and spent time with them. They apparently told him to obey "God's Law," with its emphasis on asking for and receiving "forgiveness." That counts on the betrayed wife taking part in GIVING him other "chances to fall." There's use of the phrase "soul mate," but there's no such thing as a "soul." That word was invented so there would be something to be "saved" by preachers who negotiate with God, at great profit to preachers. His counselors seem to belong to "faith-based community groups" that try to decrease domestic violence, addictions, crime and anti-social behavior. They're tax-paid, so they sprang up everywhere after religious lawmakers illegally created them. Sanford is in bad trouble, apparently because they gave him advice based on the Bible, and didn't remind him of civil laws, codes and statutes. Investment counselors have been sued for giving harmful advice, which proved they were not qualified for the profession of counseling. Maybe he should ask for legal advice.
Moral High Ground?
This is more of an on-line affair then anything else. Adultery, you bet. Do Republicans take the moral high ground? Nope, if not for these conservative men, there would be sex in the streets. Someone has to take a stand for morals and family values. No one is perfect, so the point of your article is pretty stupid. Where's your coverage of the Duke College Professor arrested by the FBI (white gay male, some sort of administrator in Heath Care) who was pimping out his 5 year old son (black adopted) who he was also sexually abusing. What? Too many sorid details for gays? Would this inflame the debate on the defense of marriage act or maybe don't ask don't tell, or gee I don't know, how about homosexual's adopting children, especially a minority who he admitted "was easier to get". Sounds like there is a story there. Why is Duke being quite about this? They were all over the news with the black woman who accused the Lacrosse Team of rape which turned out to be totally false and ruined many lifes. Maybe it's because this just ruins one tiny black boys life? Where is the Nancy Grace snear? Frank Lombard, just google and tell me that's not newsworthy.
An Epiphany?
I’m gonna have to drop back and punt on this one. This guy wasn’t trolling for little boys in a bathroom. He wasn’t hitting on staffers. This was a non-sexual, 7 or 8 year friendship that got serious. Someone else said it, “Nothing happens out of the blue”. His wife is apparently all a man could ask for. Maybe that’s the problem. He had all that everyone said he should have, but not the happiness they said would go along with it. When things got bad in SC, Argentina was the place he could go for solace. His wife has already positioned herself to move on and I suggest he do the same. To me, his big mistake is that, like a little kid who can’t bring himself to just get off the merry-go-round, he’s hanging on and getting dragged in circles through the dirt. Time to stand up and be the man he wants to be, rather than the man other people want him to be. He’s afraid he may lose something that’s already gone. I think he had an epiphany that may have radiated beyond his shorts. Those emails suggest these two people may have found something most of us can only dream of. Gingrich cheated, divorced, remarried and is, in fact, already running for president, and no one is saying a word. In the new Republican Party there might be a place for more than one divorced fiscal conservative. I’d be calling Argentina.
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